As far as sex is concerned, there are very few absolutes. As long as there is consent between both parties, virtually anything goes, meaning you can derive your sexual satisfaction from anything that pushes your buttons. For some, it is a specific sex position; for others, it is a particular act, maybe cuddling, deep kissing, and whipping and tying on the other end of the spectrum. However, there is another dimension to sexual arousal and fulfilment that is sometimes left out of the conversation but is just as important —-fetish. So let’s talk about fetishes and how you can realise them.
What Are Fetishes?
A fetish, or a sexual fetish, is the feeling of sexual excitement or arousal in response to an otherwise not sexual object. There is no one way to feel a fetish. Some people engage their fetishes visually. Some others would rather touch their fetish or smell it to get aroused. And for some people, an imagination of the object is enough to stimulate them sexually. A fetish generally develops over time, with a person associating an object or situation with sexual arousal after feeling aroused by it in previous times. Also, anything can be fetishised, and some people have some fetish that would generally be considered weird. However, some common ones can easily be realised.
Different Types of Fetishes That Can Be Realized
As stated earlier, anything can be fetishised. We cannot have an exhaustive list of fetishes that can be realised. But we have some commonalities that many people, especially men, can relate to. They include:
- Foot Fetish
Foot fetish, also known as podophilia or foot partialism, is an exaggerated sexual interest in the foot. It is one of the commonest sexual fetishes. It can manifest in many different ways. While some people have a thing for the toes, some get excited by the sight of foot jewellery or the odour of the foot.
- Cuckolding
Cuckolding is another common fetish that involves watching your partner have sex with another person. For some people, the feelings of jealousy it incites drive them to perform better sexually. And some people feel compersion —-happiness from seeing their partner happy.
- Bondage
Bondage involves restraining your partner with ropes, cuffs, or tapes. The goal is to keep them in place and experience that feeling of trust and submission that would make your partner agree to be tied down.
- Electrostimulation
Electrostimulation is a form of sensation play that involves using mild electric shocks to create a feeling of sexual arousal. Electrostimulation can be practised with small toys and devices to create electric shock, usually below the waist.
- Quirofilia
Quirofilia, also known as hand partialism, is the fetish of the hand or parts of the hand. It manifests as an exaggerated attraction to the fingers and hands and acts that involve using the hands, such as dishwashing. It could also mean an attraction to bracelets and rings and manicured hands.
- Katoptronophilia
This is a fascination with mirrors or watching yourself in a sexual position. Katoptronophilia involves watching yourself have sex in a mirror while the action continues.
- Somnophilia
Somnophilia, also known as sleeping beauty fetish, is a type of fetish that involves intense sexual attraction to a sleeping or unconscious person. Somnophilia can be tricky, so ensure you cover all the angles of informed consent before trying it out.
How Can You Realize Your Fetishes
Whether you’re exploring your fetishes with a long-term partner or a live cam girl, there are certain things that you must put into consideration to ensure a healthy and safe realisation of your fetish.
Top of the list is informed consent and communication. If you have a fetish in mind and are trying to practice with your partner or cam girl, communicate ahead. Let them know what you have planned. If you have a foot fetish, it might feel weird if you suddenly start sucking on the toes of your date without letting them know that’s what you enjoy. They might find it repulsive, and communicating is the only way to find out.
Another way to realise your fetish safely and healthily is to engage the services of a live cam girl. Engaging a cam girl’s services removes all the awkwardness of trying to explain your fetish to a known person.
A fetish is not something to be ashamed of; we all have things that turn us on. The point is to explore your fetish safely and healthily.